Healing Trauma

May nothing stop us from realizing

how we wound and how we heal.

Wound-able & Whole-making

In the places where the Soul is unconscious, because we were traumatized as children, we wound others and ourselves. But when we become conscious of Her presence in our lives, we begin to heal and awaken.

Often, when we face the outer world, we get re-wounded. Unless there is harmony in our inner world, we start feeling overwhelmed. We find ways of turning away from what we really feel and we rely more on what we are addicted to than on Soul-intelligence to regulate us.

Doing so, we turn away from our Soul-center and we begin to experience the world in ways that feels unsafe and unfair. We can no longer feel Soul’s heart and devotion and end up building our lives on shallow ground.

Bodies that carry trauma can’t remember the Soul. When trauma gets triggered, the brain shuts down and we are no longer in present time. Yesterday’s unprocessed trauma interferes with today’s awareness and we are repeating the past. A defensive/protective facade separates our inner and outer environments to keep what threatens and disgusts us out.

It’s maladaptive to try and keep yesterday’s traumatic experiences out. In order to process and integrate these experiences in “present time,” our bodies need to be in open communication with all parts and people present. 

It’s hard to stay open and allow integration of our outer and inner worlds, when danger is perceived which happens often when wounds aren’t healed. As soon as the brain detects dangerous forces are present, it reinforces the facade to keep the outer and inner worlds separate. This is why we often end up feeling emotionally alone in group dynamics. 

Our facade separates the outer and inner worlds we live in whereas our Soul has the power to integrate both worlds. We heal and transform, when we succeed in creating a safe place to process grief and rage with others who have wounded us and/or feel wounded by us. If the intention is to seek acceptance, forgiveness and respect for all sides, integration happens.  

The author of “Radical Forgiveness,” Colin Tipping said in a  KPFK interview with Michael Beckwith, what makes forgiveness “radical” is the idea that something is happening “for you, not to you.”

It’s hard to accept the idea that traumatic events are happening for us. But we can create events that will help us heal the trauma many of us carry in our bodies? I learned to accept that the Soul can heal Her many “selves” through us, but we have to be willing to experience the depth of trauma and outrage many of us feel for the ways we were and often still are rejected, abandoned or betrayed by life.

When we remember the Soul we begin to heal. To support your healing and remembering, take a listen to how Martin Prechtel defines Grief and Praise, click here to listen.